Blogging About Communication

Remember splashing around in a swimming pool, eyes squeezed shut, calling “Marco!” and hoping someone answered with “Polo”? Playing Marco-Polo was an adventure because you had to rely on communication, trust, and show a bit of courage. Surprisingly, finding and maintaining a friendship isn’t all that different. Whether you’re a college student, changing jobs, or looking to expand your social circle, there are a few lessons Marco-Polo can teach us about meaningful friendships.

You Need to Speak Up

In Marco-Polo, nothing happens unless someone calls out. The same is true when seeking a friend. Waiting for someone to discover you rarely works. Someone has to call out, say hello, ask a question, introduce themselves, or invite the other person to lunch. Many a friendship is started with a simple question: “Mind if I sit here?” “What did you think of yesterday’s session?” Have you tried the coffee?” A small greeting can open the door to a lasting friendship.

Listen for the Response

Calling “Marco!” is only half the game. You need to listen carefully for “Polo.” Friendships work the same way. You need to pick up on how another person responds. Are they interested? Do they smile? Listening helps you discover shared interests, and lets the other person know you are hearing them. Great friendships grow from conversations where both people feel valued.

You Won’t Find Everyone

Sometimes you’d call “Marco” and hear nothing in return. Perhaps the other person was distracted or just stopped playing. Not everyone you meet will become your friend. Personalities differ. Interests may not overlap. Timing matters. Silence is not failing. Keep calling. Keep meeting people. Keep giving yourself opportunities to connect.

Be Easy to Find

As when playing Marco Polo, friendship requires a willingness to be found. Smile. Join conversations. Participate in activities. Accept invitations. Attend events. If someone reaches out, answer with your own version of “Polo.”

ACTION PLAN

Play The “Marco-Polo” Challenge. For the next week, create one “Marco” moment daily. Use it to introduce yourself to someone new, start one brief conversation, ask one open-ended question. Either accept an invitation or invite someone to lunch or coffee with you. Ask yourself which of your “Polo” responses surprised you the most. Friendship is about having the courage to call out first, see who answers, and enjoy what happens next.